BY MICHAEL REISIG –
In these times of duplicity and confusion (and constant bombardment by government and marketers telling you what you should or shouldn’t be), it’s sometimes hard to find yourself.
The truth is, it’s easy to copy, rather than be innovative or true to yourself – there’s no effort involved in borrowing. But whatever you choose to be, it should fit comfortably within the durable fame of good character. Be true to yourself and you’ll be amazed how much people will respect that. Most folks don’t always have to agree with you, to respect you.
In a world that’s constantly trying to make you something else, I believe your primary obligation in this lifetime is to be true to yourself. You can never provide anyone else honesty if you can’t find it in yourself. Besides, if you’re willing to admit it, deception is a fatiguing enterprise. The most exhausting activity is pretending to be something you know you’re not. When you’re writing the story of your life, don’t borrow anyone else’s pen. Be a limited edition.
If you’re concerned about being influential, let me tell you, it’s better to be a moon than a sun. I’m reminded of a few lines by the Taoist teacher, Deng Ming-Dao, who wrote “Living With Balance and Harmony”: “The moon does not fight. It attacks no one. It does not worry. It does not try to crush others. It keeps to its course, but by its very nature, it gently influences. What other body could pull an entire ocean from shore to shore? The moon is faithful to its nature and its power is never diminished.”
At some point in life you have to come to terms with yourself, and the greatest thing that can happen is to discover that you like who you are. It’s not egotistical to like yourself. It’s essential. If you find someone to whom you’re attracted, but they want you to change to fit them or the situation, you’ve found the wrong person. You need no one to validate your ticket in life. It’s good to find someone to love. We all need that. But never love someone so much that you lose yourself in the process.
On a final note I would have to add that money does not make you like yourself any better. It simply has a tendency to exaggerate what you are. If you were a dirt bag before you came into money, you will simply be a rich dirt bag.
When I look back on my life, the people who impressed me the most were those who were absolutely certain of who they were – the originals. Self-confidence is the most attractive quality a person can possess. Be the real thing. Be true to yourself.