BY MICHAEL REISIG –
To me there are two kinds of peace of mind – to have within you the ability to subdue the challenges of life while surrounded by them (to simply remove yourself from the playing field for a few moments to find your equilibrium). Or to possess a small quiet place within you that is free from doubts, worries, and anger – where you can go to find succor, and recharge your spiritual and mental batteries.
But peace of mind is also about accepting life in an imperfect world. The more you swim against the stream, the more you harbor old grievances or relive the battles you didn’t win, the less peace of mind you’re going to find. Sometimes serenity is just letting go, because it’s not a goal – it’s not breaking the ribbon at the end of the race, it’s enjoying the run. I like the expression by Ralph Waldo Emerson – “For every minute that you’re angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.”
Other people can offer suggestions on how to find peace of mind, but what they’re really doing is telling you how they found theirs. You can use what they say as guidelines, but in the end, if you want to find peace of mind, you have to listen to your own heart. No one can tell you what will unequivocally make you happy – no one can run your race for you. I think at some point you must learn to be grateful, you have to part with envy, and develop a child’s sense of enthusiasm. Remember, that peace or suffering are nothing more than a thought away.
Part of the secret to this peace of mind/contentment thing is seeing life as it really is – it’s a lump of clay – your lump of clay, and He who created the universe (whether it took seven days or a hundred million years) has given you this unique opportunity – to shape it any way you want. Give up complaining, quit comparing your life to others, and pocket your criticisms – you’ve got this incredible lump of clay and unending possibilities. What more could you ask for?
While you’re on this road toward peace of mind here are a few signposts to watch for: Integrity – this is the fundamental essence of self worth. Passion – This is the seasoning of life – it’s what provides the endless possibilities for success, love, learning, and compassion. And I would be remiss to leave out Faith. Find what you believe in and cherish it, and it will light your path.
I’ll close with one of my favorite expressions. I don’t know who said it, but I like it. Everything will be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end…